Real Hurts, Real Freedom

Real Hurts, Real Freedom

Message #3: Rev. Scott Parker

The Freedom of Forgetting

Genesis 39: 6-23;  40: 14, 23; 41: 37-38, 51-52


2 important points about Forgiveness (revisiting last week’s message)

Forgiveness is NOT Reconciliation:

Forgiveness Begins With God:  We can only forgive as we have been forgiven by God

Forgiveness is a Practice:  1)  To forgive a deep hurt is usually a Process

2)    The Choice to forgive comes before the Feeling

3)    We will continue to be hurt in this life


Genesis 39: 6-23; 40: 14, 23;  41: 37-38, 51-52: Insights From This Passage

*Joseph is “re-visited” by the wound he experienced at the hands of his brothers

-39: 6-23:  Falsely accused & imprisoned though he did the right thing

-40: 14, 23:  forgotten by the chief cupbearer

*39: 9; 41:16: Joseph trusts in God, expressed in  obedience and gratitude

          Genesis 39:9

    No one is greater in this house than I am. My master has withheld nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How then could I do such a wicked thing and sin against God?”

Genesis 41:16

    “I cannot do it,” Joseph replied to Pharaoh, “but God will give Pharaoh the answer he desires.”

*39: 20-23:  Though in prison, God is with Joseph and blesses him

Joseph does not wait for his circumstances to change: 

                   Many of us are waiting to be happy: -right job, person to grovel

*41:41-45:  God does a new thing in Joseph’s life that he could never have imagined


                   –Obeying God, not sleeping w/ Potiphar’s wife would set in motion a chain of events that would make him the most powerful man in Egypt & save millions

*41:51:  God has helped Joseph to

Forget the wound of his past

Genesis 41:51

    Joseph named his firstborn Manasseh and said, “It is because God has made me forget all my trouble and all my father’s household.”

 We EACH have hurts

-from things we have done, things done to us, and the circumstances of life

A major Failure or Sin we have committed   -Someone who has wronged you

A painful childhood memory/experience      -A Divorce,  Broken Relationship

Being hurt in a church  -Addiction,  -Sinful Practice  -Taken Advantage of

Loss of a Job, Rejection, Disappointment     -Unfulfilled Desire

False Message (you’re no good, don’t trust) -Unhealthy Pattern of handling life


There are many Christians who love God, are forgiven, and are going to Heaven

…But they have never been FREE. 

Many of us experience Painful Memory Déjà vu, when a present experience triggers a past hurt, sin or message in such a way that we Re-Live the experience in the here/now.

*”How can you call yourself a Christian knowing what you’ve done?”

*”See—you’ll always be a failure.”  *”God let you down then, he’ll let you down now.”

*”You’ll never be happy again.”       *”You have to be in control, be the best,”

*”Don’t let anyone get too close.”     *“This will make me feel better/solve my problem”

*”Here comes that person-Arrrrghh”  *”I will NEVER let that happen again!!!”


**THE COAT:  Betrayed by brothers years ago, the the memory would keep coming back:  Potiphar’s wife;  Cupbearer

Through “Painful Memory Déjà vu,” Satan wants to CONDEMN us, make us LOSE HOPE, keep us BELIEVING A LIE about ourselves and continue OLD PATTERNS.

Satan wants to make us PRISONERS of our Past


                                Past Wound or Sin                                SIGNIFICANT

STRONGHOLD =  False Message we Believe                 = INFLUENCE

                                Reaction / Misplaced Trust           OVER US

 God Frees us from the hurts of the past by helping us to FORGET


Joseph named his firstborn Manasseh and said, “It is because God has made me forget all my trouble and all my father’s household.”         *Manasseh=forget, Amnesia

What does it mean to Forget a hurt? 

To forget does not mean to fail to remember.  Those things are still there.

God doesn’t take away the past memories,

but he causes us to look back without being PARALYZED in pain

I no longer Have the hurt.

The memory is there but the pain is gone b/c I have forgotten the hurt

We Forget the Old Hurt because of the…


“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.  See, I am doing a new thing!

 Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland.” Isaiah 43: 18-19

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28


IT IS EASY TO BECOME BITTER:  Joseph has every reason to, but he DOESN’T. 

Bitterness in dictionary=PERVASIVE CYNICISM=DISTRUST

                   –God doesn’t have a plan for me

                   –God isn’t working for my good

                   –Trusting God doesn’t amount to much


*When Pharoah asked him to interpret dream, he says “I can’t, but God can.”  That is not the attitude of someone who is bitter.  If J had given in to bitterness, he would not have had the listening heart to interpret the dreams.



 “-the God who gives life to the dead and calls things that are not as though they were. Against all hope, Abraham in hope believed” Romans 4:17-18


HOW TO FORGET  and become Free from a past wound

*We cannot forget without first forgiving (week #2)

*Stop expecting and looking for ideal and wound-free circumstances

*Be aware of the “déjà vu triggers” that cause us to relive a past wound

*Ask for God’s power to stop dwelling on the past wound or experience

*Choose to dwell on God’s truth by saturating yourself in Scripture (Week #4)

*Ask God to transform how you think about and see yourself (Week #5)

*Practice “Thanksgiving” to grow a keen awareness of God’s work in your life

*Ask God to help you experience the NEW THING He is doing in your life

*Allow the New Thing to enter your life by FOCUSING ON THE NOW

*GOD IS IN THE PRESENT—Join Him by Trust and Obedience

*We break the power of the past by living in God’s power TODAY


Jesus, I have been a prisoner of the wounds from my past, and I am aware of the old wounds that I continue to re-live.  I surrender the hurt to You, and ask You to do a new thing in my life.  Help me to forget the past hurt as I focus on what You are doing today.  I give to You my trust and obedience.  Amen.